A Reddit post about choosing a child-free life in India has sparked a discussion online on money, mental health and family expectations. The post, titled “Being DINKs in India is oddly… peaceful?”, was shared by an Indian couple who described their life as a dual-income, no-kids (DINK) couple.
"We’re a DINK couple. Dual income, no kids. Not ‘anti-kids’, just very intentional. What surprised me is how quietly positive this lifestyle feels, especially in an Indian context where life usually follows a fixed script," the Redditor wrote.
The couple went on to list the upsides of their decision. “Some honest upsides I didn’t fully appreciate earlier: Financial breathing room without guilt, Freedom to take risks with career, health, relocation, Time and energy for ourselves and our relationship, Decisions driven by choice, not deadlines. Less constant anxiety about ‘doing everything right’,” they wrote.
Being DINKs in India is oddly… peaceful?
by u/OkVeterinarian7304 in india
The OP said the reactions from others, however, have been mixed. “It’s rarely outright criticism. It’s more: ‘You’ll change your mind’ ‘But who will take care of you later?’ ‘Life feels empty without kids, no?’” they wrote.
The Reddit user admitted that they do not have all the answers. But, they said that they feel content for now.
“Curious to hear from other DINKs in India. What’s been unexpectedly good or hard? People who considered it but didn’t choose it. Why? Parents who don’t see DINKs as selfish. What’s your take?” the user asked.
“Not here to convince anyone. Just sharing an experience that doesn’t get talked about honestly enough,” the couple clarified.
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Social media reactions
Reacting to the post, one user wrote, “I honestly don't see much of a problem with DINK. I mean, till 40 you can easily have kids, 45 if you're rich. Even after that, you can always adopt. Live life how you want.”
“Being intentional scares people more than being childfree. Peace is underrated, especially in Indian households. DINK isn’t anti-family, it’s just a different family model. My wife and I are DINKs, not because we don’t like kids, I personally would like to be a father one day, but it’s not the right time for us,” commented another.
“I know of a DINK couple. They are happy and peaceful and able to do lot of things which I am unable. The responsibility of kids is a mental stress for sure and restricts your life in many ways,” wrote a third user.
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