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This is a story of a woman whose fiancé has given her an ultimatum after finding out that she had plastic surgery almost 10 years ago.
I met my fiancé 2 years ago at a networking event for entrepreneurs in KL. We are both attractive, high-achieving individuals working in a similar industry and both of us are entrepreneurs.
We both live luxurious lifestyles, although yes I do admit, he’s the old money kind of rich. He has seen money since the day he was born. His grandfather’s company is somewhat of a household name in Malaysia so I won’t mention it. The difference is that he comes from money and I do not.
I’ve been working since the age of 18, although I’m not formally educated but my business-savvy mindset got me to where I am, a successful business woman in my own right. I founded 2 companies in 5 years – one of them is even in discussions of being acquired by a Bursa listed company.
When we met, I didn’t date him for his family inheritance. Despite his privilege, I admired his work ethic and the way he saw opportunities and seized them. We both were clear with what we were looking for when we first started dating: getting married and starting a family.
He found my old photos
While my fiancé was looking through some old boxes recently, he found an old picture of me. He remarked I looked really different from how I looked now.
I admitted that I had some plastic surgeries almost 10 years ago: a nose job (cosmetic rhinoplasty) and corrective jaw surgery (prognathism) for my lower jaw which was sticking out.
Before you ask, I did not share about my plastic surgery because that was a past version of myself that I did not like. Not just on the outside but also the inside. I believe that if he really loves me, he would see past this.
However, my fiancé was outraged to find out I had work done on my face. I have since found out that he has an aversion to women that have done plastic surgery and apparently considers this “tricking” a man.
To be honest, I feel quite appalled that he would have such a strong reaction over something so small and simple. I still look pretty much the same, just without a medical condition that I had no control over.
However, this has caused a huge fight between us because now he has the idea that I am a “gold digger” who “targeted” him for his family’s money.
I have reminded him of my own achievement – to which he says it’s only because of how I deceived investors with my looks!
He has also said that, “Since we won’t know if our children will be ugly,” it’s only fair that I am to sign a pre-nup before getting married – which would leave me with almost nothing in case we end up in a divorce – even if he had an affair!
Should I leave him?
I am feeling defeated, hurt and most of all – angry. I do not think the reason we are even having this argument is even valid. To me, it’s such a small issue and barely something worth fighting over. I also feel like he puts my worth in how I look and not my personality.
A big part of me is considering just leaving him now because he doesn’t love me for who I am now. But the other part of me is just considering signing the pre-nup just so we can move on from this topic, because we’ve worked hard on our relationship and future plans. We fit well on everything else and are in agreement on so many things.
I’m afraid to share this dilemma with friends and family. They might think the reason I don’t want to sign the pre-nup is because I’m going after his money. Should I leave him? Or should I stay?